Showing posts with label Homecomings. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Homecomings. Show all posts

Tuesday, April 16, 2019

The Month of the Military Child

Gosh, it's been a hot minute. Every time I make a bold claim that "I WILL keep up with this blog", I fail miserably. The truth is, I Instastory my life so much, that I find myself not being as inspired to blog. I have yet to switch my blog to Wordpress (like I have been saying for MONTHS), and who knows if that will ever happen. But anyway...

I shall grace you with my rambling today...

Since April is the "Month of the Military Child", I thought I'd share some things about my own two children and how awesome they are.

If you're a longtime follower of my Instagram/blog, I don't have to repeat my life to you. But if you're new, I'll give you the "Barney style" rundown. I am a former Marine of 10 years, married to a current active duty Marine (who will hit 18 years of service this July), and mom to 2 pretty fantastic military "brats". If you're really curious to know the whole back story of how my husband and I ended up together...just click here. You can read all about our whirlwind elopement in fabulous Las Vegas.

Back to my 2 fantastic military "brats". I have a love/hate relationship with the term "military brat". When used in the right context, it can be endearing.


Who wants to be called that anyway?! I have said this a gazillion times that military children should be the most respected members of a military family. Why? Because my husband and I CHOSE to serve. I CHOSE to marry my active duty husband. My children had NO CHOICE. They were born into our family, and forced to live this life. Not that children ever get a choice in the circumstances they are born into, but that's a whole another blog post for another person to write about. 

As parents, we have tried our best to give our kids the most "normal" life with the best opportunities we can provide. My children are involved in sports, music, activities, playdates...all the things that "regular kids" do. We make holidays special, and celebrate everything and anything that is a reason to celebrate! From that viewpoint, we are a pretty normal, All-American family!

Of course, circumstances due to the fabulous "Uncle Sam" will throw "normal" out the window in a heartbeat. My 9 year old daughter has been in 5 schools in 4 states...again...she's NINE. My 5 year old son has been in 3 schools in 2 states in his short lifetime. We tried to do the math once, and roughly figured out that both of our children have lived more of their life with their father deployed to combat or gone for training than with him under one roof. These kids are resilient.


My children have certainly "bloomed where they have been planted". Of course, we always go through an adjustment period, and I'm not saying it's always been easy. If anything, it's been rough. Our move here to Arizona from Texas was by far one of the toughest moves we have done yet. My oldest had deep seated roots in Texas with a group of friends that were thick as thieves. I think I shed more tears leaving Texas than any other duty station....not because I was sad, but because I felt like we were literally ripping our daughter away from an amazing life and group of friends. My son had just started Kindergarten in Texas, and after only 6 weeks (when he was finally getting adjusted), we moved and put him in a new Kindergarten class...in a new school...in a new state. Being 5, and being the "new kid" is tough, and I admire little Mattis for his courage and tenacity.

We have been in Yuma for roughly 7 months now, and it finally feels like home.



Our kids have settled into their new schools and have made friends. Most importantly, they get to live under the same roof as their dad, and that is a blessing. The things that most "regular kids" find so normal are things that my kids cherish. I wish you could hear the squeals of excitement when my husband has time to drive them to school in the mornings, or see the excitement on my son's face when he sees his dad on the sideline at his soccer game (cheering him on like a fool). The smallest things are the biggest things to a military kid.

They deserve a month to be dedicated to them. There is a generation of military kids growing up with a parent (or both parents) who have served in a wartime military for 18 years. I truly believe that these kids are going to change the world with the worldliness and experience in this oftentimes, uncertain life.




Wednesday, August 6, 2014

It's Today!

I get to see my honey tomorrow!
I don't have any scheduled posts while I'm gone, but no worries, folks...
I'll have plenty to update you on when I'm back home with my entire family of four!
hooray!

This photo was taken after we had our last meal as a family of 3 last night!

See y'all in a few days!

Friday, April 4, 2014

The Military Child

April is the month of the military child.
This month has a lot of meaning to my family.
My son has already gone through a short, 2 month separation in his 7 months of life from his daddy, and I know that it won't be his first.
My daughter....
I can't even count the months or years that she has spent without her father around.
I cant count the days of her life that I've missed out on because of my own commitments to the Marine Corps.

Commitments, deployments, and training for the Marine Corps....
They all take away precious time away from our children's lives

So this month has a special place in our family.

I'm a grown woman who has spent 10 years as an active duty Marine, so for me, separations are normal.
It doesn't make them easier for me, but the fact that I am old enough to comprehend things about life and the Marine Corps, it's not nearly as hard for me as it is for my kids.

However, at the end of the day, my kids get an opportunity that most kids don't get.
They get to see the world.
They get to experience different cultures.
They learn to appreciate the time that they have with their father.
They learn to "adapt and overcome".

Nick and I are so proud of the child Dannika is becoming.
It does not even faze her when we break the news to her that "daddy is leaving again."
If anything, she takes it better than me.
She keeps me sane when he's gone, and she comforts me.

I think it's awesome that there's an entire month dedicated to celebrating "military brats".
They deserve some recognition.
They're seriously the real "silent ranks".

Dannika's first time seeing Daddy in 7 months. 
She was 13 months old in this photo, and he left right when she was 6 months.

This photo ended up in the LA Times!

This was seeing daddy for the first time after his second deployment to Afghanistan!
She was 2 1/2!

And the newest "military brat" to our family...










Monday, March 24, 2014

5 Favorites About Military Life

I know lately on my blog, I do a lot of complaining about military life.
It's hit our family pretty hard these past few weeks, so it's what I've been feeling about it. 

WE ALL HAVE COME TO THE CONCLUSION...

"Military life can suck sometimes. The uncertainty. The deployments. The separations. The strange hours. Moving. It can suck."

But I figured I would share 5 things about this life that I actually love and enjoy.

1. The Homecoming after a long deployment.
Deployments suck. They suck so bad. But man, the feeling you have the day you know your honey is coming home is an indescribable feeling that I can't fathom into words. As a military spouse, I feel pretty darn lucky to have felt that much joy in my heart. I don't think the average civilian will ever feel that kind of joy.




2. The Marine Corps Ball.
What girl doesn't like wearing a gown, getting her hair and make up done and going to a big fancy party on the arm of a handsome stud in uniform?!? As a Marine, I hated going to my own birthday balls because I always saw it as "mandatory fun". That, and I had to be in uniform. I want to wear a princess dress, dangit! However, whether it was my own ball or my husband's, I've ALWAYS had such an AMAZING time. Drinks, dancing, camaraderie, and dress blues. You can't beat that.

3. Military Spouses!
Some of my "BESTEST" friends are spouses I have met through either my own work or through my husband. There's always an instant connection and a bond....a common ground that two "non military" spouses don't have. Never will you meet a woman, who you can call at 3am when your husband is deployed, and tell her you are bringing all your kids over with a bottle of wine because you can't sleep and you're sad. (whoa run on sentence. I don't care...it's my blog).

4. Benefits.
Ok, I realize that we may not have the BEST benefits this country can offer our men and women in uniform, but I am grateful for what we do have. I know a lot of people who can't afford any insurance or pay ridiculous co pays, etc. I've seen families struggle with losing their military benefits after getting out. I also never realized just how awesome things like the commissary were until we moved here where we have no commissary. I am grateful.

5. Exploring the World.
I may complain a lot about New England, but I really am thankful to have the opportunity to live somewhere with truly 4 season. I've also had the opportunity lived in one of the most beautiful states in the U.S. with gorgeous weather all year round! No one else gets to explore the world the way we get to. 

SoCal

New England


So there ya have it! 
These are my top 5 favorite things about this crazy life!
What are some of your favorites?

Thursday, August 23, 2012

Homeliness

No idea if the title of this blog is even a word, but it's the first thing that popped into my head.
Nick got in yesterday afternoon, and we've already done so much! 
 
I drove up to LA yesterday to pick him up from the dreaded LAX. Did I mention how much I HATE that airport? Oh, not to mention, I HATE the traffic. Did I ALSO mention, I hate the crazy PSYCHOTIC drivers lunatics in LA? 
After suffering several mild anxiety attacks on my drive, I made it just in time to meet Nick at the gate with a few minutes for me to spare. 
By this point, I really needed a glass of wine after the battlezone I had endured known as the I-405.
(Excuse the blurry picture)
I expected this dramatic welcoming (think "The Notebook") when I saw him coming from the terminal, but it was hardly anything close to it.
I'm so used to the nice atmosphere of the San Diego Airport and John Wayne Airport that when you compare LAX to the other two, it's like comparing Beverly Hills to Inglewood. 
Therefore, it's hardly a romantic setting to welcome home a loved one.
Either way, I was happy to have him home for a few days.
I made Nick drive back to the OC from LA (Praise Jesus for me!).
We stopped by at our favorite spot, The Sundried Tomato for a DELISH appetizer and a cocktail.
Now for the best part...
After we finished up our appetizers and drinks, we went to go surprise Dannika at her preschool.
She had no idea that Nick was going to come pick her up.
I think my excitement level would be comparable to the feeling of being 4 years old the night before Santa is supposed to arrive.
I'll just let you see for yourself, just how excited she was.

She is, without a doubt, daddy's little girl.
After the big surprise, Nick and I took Dannika out to dinner at our favorite sushi place in San Clemente (Tak-a-o). They're sushi is the best in the OC (in my professional asian sushi palate opinion). They're signature roll called the "Oh-no roll" is seriously perfection in a raw piece of fish and rice.
After dinner, we headed to Target to buy Dannika a new bicycle. We had church, but finished dinner a little early, so we had some time to kill.

*Just side note: Nick and I went to a lecture at our church by the famous Sean Mcdowell about "Shattering the Myths of Evolution". That is a WHOLE another blog post*

She has outgrown her tricycle for a few weeks now, but I really wanted Nick to be here and experience her "first bicycle moment" (hey...as a parent, every little moment counts, right?). I wasn't about to take that kind of a special moment away from a father who bought her a bicycle helmet in Quantico that resembled a pony (this is before we even considered buying her an actual bicycle). (see below)
 This morning our family was up bright and early, and Nick and Dannika were outside at 0730 riding bikes.


I can't wait to tell y'all more about our time with Nick! 
Stay tuned!

Sunday, April 1, 2012

April Fool's!

Man...it feels like forever since I've written in here.
This will be a long post, since I have a ton of catching up to do...so bear with me!
My last few weeks since St. Patty's day has been INSANELY busy!
With Nick coming home early unexpectedly, my knee surgery that happened the day AFTER he got home, and BOTH of my parents being out here at the same time...life has been one giant roller coaster.

I guess I'll start with the homecoming.
Nick was scheduled to come in at 2230 on Wednesday evening, so I took the entire day off from work to clean the house and do last minute things to get ready.
When I found out Nick was coming home early (2 weeks ago), the first thing I thought of was, "Oh crap! I haven't even ordered a welcome home banner for him!"
That's probably my A.D.D. kicking in, so I had two banners rush delivered to my house JUST in the nick of time!

This one was hung on Pulgas Road right on the baseball field. 
I wanted to make sure it stood out :-)
Thank you and a shout out to my Marines who took 30 minutes out of their workday to drive me down to Pulgas to help me zip tie my sign up :-)

The sign over our garage...Rated PG-13....

I headed down to Pendleton at around 2200 lookin' extra purdy to pick up my man.
I don't know what I was thinking...I should know better than ANYONE that if the Marine Corps says 2230, it really means 0100.
I guess every time the Marine Corps gives me a timeline of some sort, I pray for a little miracle that they will actually be on time.....I'll keep dreaming.
Did I mention I was wearing 5inch heels on a bum knee that got operated on the DAY AFTER we picked up the boys?!
Oh, and it was like FAH-REEZING outside, and I wore a short dress.
Maybe not my brightest idea, but gosh darnit, I looked cute!

Just waiting on daddy....

Patiently waiting for our men....

The boys...ahem...men...started marching in at around 2330.
It's weird because I felt that I wouldn't feel the same as I did last deployment because he wasn't gone the full 7 months.
As soon as I heard Nick's voice marching the platoon in, I immediately began tearing up, my heart started pounding, and the butterflies felt more like hummingbirds in my stomach....just like always.
I realized that when you're in love with someone, it's not the length of time that they are gone.
I wrote this on Nick's facebook wall:
" Even though our time apart has been shorter than we anticipated...the feeling and anxiousness I have right now of seeing your face and kissing your face again is like I haven't seen you in a year. In our love...a week can feel like a month, months can feel like a year, and years can feel like a decard. Even if it's for 2 short weeks...I am going to cherish EVERY minute I get with you..."
Pretty much sums it up :-)

I LOVED Dannika's reaction!
When Nick walked up, she gave him a dirty look at first because she couldn't recognize him with him cover on.
As soon as she realized who it was, she screamed, "Daddddyyyy!" and lept into his arms like they had never been apart.
That's when I started to uncontrollably tear up.
It is definitely one of the most memorable homecomings of my life thus far!

THANKS TO TAMARA FOR BRAVING THE LATE NIGHT AND THE COLD WITH ME TO CAPTURE THIS MOMENT!!!

Like we've never been apart.

First Newcastles...their favorite beer :-)

Dannika giving Jackson a goodbye kiss!

We got home around 0100, and we were up by 5am to take me to my knee surgery!
Tired and ready!

My knee surgery went just fine.
I haven't had my post op appointment yet, so I don't know the exact findings.
I do know that she found extensive cartilage damage in my patella and trochlear (????) and shaved a lot of cartilage down.
 I have been in a lot of pain...needless to say.

Here's my gorgeous swollen leg.

LASTLY...
Nick surprised me on Friday night at the Swallows Inn (a dive bar by our house) as a late birthday gift to me.
When we got there, a bunch of my closest friends had made it out to celebrate!!
The Gilbert family and the Yubetas!
It was SUCH a fun night.
Even though I couldn't dance.
Just sitting there hanging out with everyone and drinking made for an amazing night!

Here is Nick and I at MY final Sundried Tomato date of the deployment...
He actually made it this time!!!


Saturday, November 5, 2011

Marine Corps Fun

Kevin's finally home from Afghanistan!
I'm so glad that I got to join his family for his homecoming.
It was full of emotion, happy tears, and joy!

WELCOME HOME 1/5!


This is the Gilbert clan minus Dore...he was still in Afghanistan when Kevin got back!
SO EMOTIONAL
Anticipation...


Lastly, the 5/11 Tango Battery ball was last week.
This may be the last Marine Corps Ball that the "original" Tango Battery ladies might get to spend a ball together.
This year it was held at the Pechanga Casino and Resort.
We had an absolute blast celebrating the Marine Corps' 236th Birthday with our closest friends.
A special thank you to my friend Kim for doing my amazing Hollywood make up!

Nick and I have never been into the way they pose us for pictures at the ball...it always looks so "prom-ish". We like to change it up a bit.
The D's!
 The R's!


Lindsay and Brittany's husbands are both deployed to Afghanistan but it wouldn't have been a party without them! Lucky for Shon and Steve, they got to tag along :-)

The ladies

Our handsome guys




The Kim Kardashian...minus the whole 72 days of marriage thing...

I've never met Steve until the night of the ball! Nice to meet you!

We salute our Officers....

Nick and DJ Pretty Ricky...aka...SSgt Santiago

We're gangster.

Nick as Shon's stand-in for a photo

Tango Battery


Myspace picture.